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1) It
is the custom of chassidim who are careful to conduct their lifestyles
according to the practices of old that they conceal their wives’
pregnancies until they have entered the fifth month.
Undoubtedly, this practice has an inner foundation. Of course, the
precaution is about publicizing the pregnancy.
It does not apply to divulging it to very close relatives without
broadcasting it.
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Not to Mention the
Pregnancy in a Pan
Before the End of the First Trimester |
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2) There
is a tradition among Anash —
handed down by the elder chassidim of the Alter Rebbe who in turn heard it
directly from his holy mouth, in the name of our masters the Baal Shem Tov
and the Maggid of Mezritch —
regarding various practices in the chassidic lifestyle. One of these is
that before the end of the third month and the beginning of the fourth, no
mention of the pregnancy should be made in a pan
or in any note to the Rebbe.
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Kapporos
for a Pregnant Woman |
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3) A
pregnant woman should take three birds
for kapporos
— one [female] for herself, and an additional male and female because of
the undetermined sex of the fetus [according to the custom of the AriZal].
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A Pregnant Woman as Kvatterin
or Accompanying a Bride |
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4) The
Jewish custom is not to take a pregnant woman as a kvatterin.
The same applies to her accompanying a bride (“unterfiererin”).
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Immersion
During the Ninth Month |
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5) I
have not heard of a custom among Chassidei
Chabad that a woman who has entered her ninth month of pregnancy
should immerse herself in the mikveh.
6) It
is proper that each weekday morning she should donate a few pennies to
charity. Of course, this is in addition to the regular donations she
undoubtedly gives. The same applies to Erev
Shabbos and Erev Yom Tov —
before lighting the candles, she should donate to the Rabbi Meir Baal HaNess charity box
— without undertaking a vow [to continue doing so always].
7) One
should inspect the mezuzos in
his home, to ensure that they are kosher.
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Reciting Psalm 20
Before HaMapil |
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8) When
one’s wife is pregnant, he should recite Psalm 20 (lbgh...jmbnk).
Upon finishing the psalm he should repeat the first verse (jmbnk); while reciting it — or just before — he should have
in mind that God should willingly accept his recital as though he
had meditated on all the inner meanings that pertain thereto.
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Extra Hiddur
in Torah Study and Mitzvos
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9)
A woman’s conduct during pregnancy affects the child.
Consequently, the custom of righteous women is that during the time of
their pregnancy each one increases the care with which she attends to
matters of Torah and mitzvos,
for the benefit of the child.
This applies even before she becomes pregnant. (As is known, during
pregnancy they are especially cautious not to stare at unclean things, but
rather to look only at things that are clean and holy.
Similar precautions should be taken when she emerges from the place of
immersion.
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